Dating in a Cashmere Mafia World

Miami Beach, FL (PRWEB) February 13, 2008 -- Date.com (www.Date.com), one of the leading online dating services with more than two million active members nationwide, is helping men redefine the modern day relationship just in time for Valentine's Day. The trend, which started last decade and continues today, where women like Angelina Jolie, Nicole Richie, Halle Berry, Naomi Watts and Bridget Moynahan have children out of wedlock, has gone well beyond the celebrity stratosphere. In fact, a recent poll of Date.com's female members found that 58% would not wait for Mr. Right to come along in order to have children, while only 42% still believe that marriage should come first. Since many women are choosing to have babies without even the commitment of marriage, men are starting to wonder what exactly are their needs in a long-term relationship?

"Marriage in order to procreate is a thing of the past, and men need to adjust their thinking when dating today's modern woman," said Shira Zwebner, Relationship Advisor for Date.com. "The desperate woman who will settle down with someone just because her biological clock is ticking is practically obsolete. Which means that, when today's single woman gets ready for a blind date, she's much more relaxed and focused on getting exactly what she needs from the relationship. In the back of her mind, she knows that if she doesn't find precisely what she's looking for, she can get everything she wants out of life - including having children - by herself."

Today's Modern Single Woman is not a new phenomenon and men worldwide have had plenty of time to learn how to love the woman who is career driven, financially independent, business savvy, worldly and sophisticated. But the multitudes of single women who have decided to approach Motherhood without any relationship commitment has intimidated many men from getting intimate.

Follows are a few of Date.com's tips for men struggling to make headway while dating today's Modern Single Woman:

- Drop the whole knight in shining armor coming to rescue a woman on a white horse act. Today's woman is not looking to be saved when it comes to her relationships; she's looking for a partnership. Someone who will split the load with all aspects of life, from bringing in money to being available to drive carpool. Besides, you can't confuse "saving" with "caring". And most women will appreciate you care when you're nursing them through a bad cold.

- Be supportive and not competitive. So what if she makes more money than you? Being threatened by her career success is a huge turn off. If she is the more financially successful member of the relationship, she wants to know that not only won't your ego be bruised, but you will also be proud of her accomplishments. When she makes partner or gets a promotion, let her take you out for a fancy dinner, just don't forget to pick up a nice gift for her too.

- Understand her schedule and be flexible! Just like you want your space when you have plans with your college buddies or a guilt free set night to go play basketball with your coworkers, women want the same thing. Don't expect her to drop her weekly cocktail gossip session with her best friend or change her book club night because you're available and want to go out. By respecting her schedule and her commitments, you will show that you are willing to be with her whenever she's available. Stick with it and eventually, you'll have a routine that balances your time together with your time apart, without feeling like your relationship is suffering.

- Quid Pro Quo Sexually. It's important for you to take the time to make sure your partner is sexually satisfied. Try putting her physical needs before yours and see just how quickly she'll reciprocate. Besides, it can be just as much fun for you too!

About Date.com

Date.com, where "Every Relationship Begins with a Date", is an online dating community committed to helping its members find and maintain the best relationship for them. Launched on Valentine's Day 1997, Date.com has become one of the world's most popular dating sites. Over 10 million members worldwide have used its online dating service, because it offers a convenient and safe way for singles to meet. The site attracts millions of visitors and introduces thousands of couples each month. Included in Date.com's larger network of dating sites is Matchmaker.com, which as the oldest online dating site launched in 1986, and Amor.com, a rapidly growing destination for Hispanic singles. Additional information is available at www.date.com.

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